self-absorbed
Americanadjective
adjective
Usage
What does self-absorbed mean? Self-absorbed is an adjective used to describe a person who’s preoccupied with their own wants and needs. When used in this term, the word absorbed means deeply preoccupied or totally wrapped up in something—in this case, oneself. Self-absorbed is almost always used negatively. When you call people self-absorbed, it usually means you think they only think about and care about themselves. The term is typically used to describe a person’s overall personality (as opposed to their behavior on a certain day or at a certain time). The state of being self-absorbed is called self-absorption (notice how the b becomes a p in the noun absorption). Example: My therapist helped me to see how self-absorbed I was, only ever thinking about myself and making everything about me.
Etymology
Origin of self-absorbed
First recorded in 1840–50
Explanation
If you're overly concerned with yourself, including your own feelings and thoughts, you're self-absorbed. Self-absorbed people don't think much about how others are feeling. Your self-absorbed acquaintance Isn't likely to ask you sincerely how you're doing today, because he's too busy thinking about himself. And a self-absorbed driver who gets in a fender bender might rush to see if her car is scratched rather than checking to make sure her passenger is okay. Self-absorbed dates from the late 18th century, from self and absorbed, "engrossed mentally."
Example Sentences
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Before long the two young servants, superior to and saner in every way than their self-absorbed and snobbish employers, are chastely courting.
From The Wall Street Journal ● Jun. 26, 2026
In Tim Burton’s breakthrough film, O’Hara played tragically hip Delia Deetz, the pretentious and self-absorbed stepmother of Winona Ryder’s Lydia.
From Los Angeles Times ● Jan. 30, 2026
"We will no longer be an isolated country, a country that is self-absorbed and acts solely out of political necessity."
From Barron's ● Nov. 21, 2025
By Alan, of course, he is referring to his much-loved and often quoted comedy creation, Alan Partridge - the tactless, self-absorbed and self-styled presenter.
From BBC ● Sep. 30, 2025
I knew her, and I had thought she was a friend, although I could see that she was self-absorbed.
From "How Dare the Sun Rise" by Sandra Uwiringiyimana
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