tough love

American

noun

a mixture of toughness and warmth used in a relationship, especially with an adolescent.

tough love British

noun

the practice of taking a stern attitude towards a relative or friend suffering from an addiction, etc, to help the addict overcome the problem

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Etymology

Origin of tough love

First recorded in 1977; after Toughlove, a network of support groups

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tough love

“I wanted to go to UC Davis for veterinary school, and my dad, with his tough love, said, ‘I don’t want you to be far.

From Los Angeles Times ● Sep. 4, 2026

The tough love that Pochettino dishes out is all he has ever known.

From The Wall Street Journal ● Jul. 1, 2026

More and more young people talk about feeling burnt out, question the point of staying in the rat race and, in some cases, feel bruised by their parents' tough love.

From BBC ● Jun. 13, 2026

In response to Reddit’s tough love, Parkins decluttered the house, had new listing photos taken and cut the asking price.

From MarketWatch ● May 13, 2026

Guillermo sure wasn’t holding back on the tough love.

From "I'll Give You the Sun" by Jandy Nelson

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