Examples of going Dutch
Examples of going Dutch
Dating apps are helping to eradicate old rules and it is now far easier for women to orchestrate our own sexual destiny. We can avoid unwanted attention all with the flick of a finger or a painful “slow fade”. We initiate the contact and we are in control. So why did I still find myself seriously irked after going Dutch on a recent Tinder date?
Where does going Dutch come from?
Going Dutch means that every person in a group of diners or imbibers pays for their themselves. It’s popularly thought the expression originated as a British slur towards the perceived stinginess of Dutch people. While the British certainly did have many colorful phrases against the Dutch—and French, and Spanish, and any of their other maritime rivals— going Dutch doesn’t appear to be one of them.
Going Dutch appears to come from a 19th century Americanism, a Dutch treat (or Dutch lunch/supper), which also refers to each person paying their own way in a meal. The Dutch, here, apparently refers not to people from the Netherlands, but from Germany and Switzerland: the Pennsylvania Dutch, who supposedly had a custom of bringing their own food to gatherings, like a potluck.
Dutch treat is attested as early as 1873 in a Missouri newspaper referring to drinkers pay their own bar tabs. The idiom going Dutch is recorded as early as 1914 and spread throughout the English-speaking world.
Who uses going Dutch?
Going Dutch is generally used of purchasing food and drinks, but it can also be used of other purchases, such people splitting the costs of gifts, or sharing responsibility in a group effort.
I’m closing on a house in two weeks, so… you could all go Dutch on a housewarming gift. https://t.co/h70GfNwig6
— John McNish (@john_mcnish) December 14, 2017
When you go Dutch on your first deployment.
A European Army? The Germans and Dutch Take a Small Step – The New York Times https://t.co/6xWsKV0M6y
— NotMyName (@NotMyNameWhoU) February 21, 2019
Among friends, going Dutch is a casual and common practice. Among romantic partners, however, going Dutch can seem cheap and rude, especially if a man doesn’t pay for a female date’s dinner. That said, some may find this custom old-fashioned and patriarchal.
Ladies word of advice..if he asks u to go dutch on the first date he's either cheap as hell or dosent find u interesting anymore
— Bobby Buffet (@DapaDon) September 9, 2009
When a man asks you to go Dutch just say No! Make sure you have fast cash to call a taxi or use @Uber. Cheap men are not worthy
— Patti Stanger (@pattistanger) March 10, 2014
I don’t mind going Dutch on dates or whatever but don’t everrrrr make it seem like you’re about to pay for the whole date when you know you don’t have money. It makes you look bad
— Princess unikitty (@TAN1AAA) January 25, 2018