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sorry not sorry

[ sawr-ee not sawr-ee ]

What does sorry not sorry mean?

Sorry not sorry is a sarcastic way of acknowledging that someone might not like whatever you’re saying or doing … but you don’t really care.

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Where does sorry not sorry come from?

Sorry not sorry is a new take on a time-honored tradition: the insincere or ironic apology—as if to say Sorry, but I’m not really sorry or Sorry, scratch that, I’m not sorry.

One early instance of the expression comes in 2001 when an internet user shadily changed the name of a thread from “Sorry for stephen” to “Sorry, not-sorry for stephen.” (Sorry, Stephen.)

The phrase began spreading in the 2000s. The American rock band Amen released the song “Sorry, Not Sorry” in 2004, featuring the lyrics “Sorry, I’m not sorry.” In 2007, columnist James Pinkerton criticized former CIA Director Tenet as “Sorry/Not Sorry” following a big book deal.

Social media gave sorry not sorry legs in the 2010s. The phrase made its Twitter debut in December, 2010:

It took off in the Twitterverse the following year, sometimes perceived as a “bitchy” thing young adult women say.

In 2017, pop artist Demi Lovato rebranded the phrase with her award-winning song “Sorry Not Sorry,” championing self-empowerment—never apologizing for who you are.

Examples of sorry not sorry

you are the stupidest person i have ever met. sorry not sorry
@mady_marx, June, 2016
Take a look at what we’re vibing on in the SEC, including saying “sorry, not sorry” for all of our conference pride and boastful attitudes.
Brian Stultz, Stadium, March, 2017
I don’t consider Ozymandias a villain sorry not sorry. And on that note I guess I can say the same about Thanos. They were both just trying to bring balance. Nothing more and nothing less.
@KinseyKeith, May, 2018

Who uses sorry not sorry?

More in line with its mid-2010s reputation, sorry not sorry can be sassy, rude, or proud.

Thanks in part to Demi Lovato in the late 2010s, sorry not sorry can also signify self-empowerment or taking ownership—you do you.

On social media, people often use sorry not sorry to tag an unpopular or controversial opinion.

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