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cruel to be kind

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  1. To be “cruel to be kind” is to cause someone pain for his or her own good. The phrase is used by Hamlet after he has berated his mother for her infidelity to the memory of her deceased husband.


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"You have to be cruel to be kind, and this is the pure example of it."

From BBC • Jan. 6, 2024

When Hamlet said he had to be cruel to be kind, he presented it as a grim necessity.

From New York Times • Dec. 21, 2021

It’s a tough break, but, you know, cruel to be kind and all that.

From Salon • Jan. 19, 2013

Ultimately, Messrs. Jobs and Gates's lessons to managers aren't about being cruel to be kind or successful.

From The Wall Street Journal • Apr. 5, 2012

Because," he continued, with a villainous leer, "I am only cruel to be kind.

From High Noon A New Sequel to 'Three Weeks' by Elinor Glyn by Anonymous

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