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verb (used with object)
  1. Archaic. to frighten.
verb (used without object)
  1. Archaic. to fight or brawl.

Origin of fray

1250–1300; Middle English frai; aphetic variant of affray
Can be confusedfrays phrase

Word story

“I joined the fray, and proceeded to fray my clothes.” What we have here are two completely different words that happen to be spelled (and pronounced) the same way. This is the story of the first fray, a word for a fight, a competition, or a noisy brawl.
This fray was borrowed into English from an Anglo-French word with the various meanings “to disturb,” “to attack,” and also “to frighten.” The past participle of this same word ( affrayed, meaning “alarmed”) became, in English, afraid.
While nowadays frays are things that people willingly “enter” or “join” or even “throw themselves into,” early in its history the fear aspect dominated. And so, in the 1300s, one could speak of frayes and dredes (fears and dreads) and in the 1500s, one might find a fray-boggard (fear-goblin) in the garden, a frightening specter better known to us as a scarecrow.
Related Quotations
  • "Shall we play the coward, then, and leave the hard knocks for our daughters, or shall we throw ourselves into the fray, bare our own shoulders to the blows, and thus bequeath to them a politically liberated womanhood?"
    -Carrie Chapman Catt The Crisis (delivered September 7, 1916)
  • "The Portuguese [referees] offered no brotherly love to Pelé by fouling him seven times, eventually forcing his withdrawal from the fray."
    -Tony Mason Passion of the people?: Football in South America (1995)
  • "Pedestrians attempted to squeeze by and avoid being pulled into the loud fray between the two draymen."
    -Georgina Flemming The Light to My Darkness (1992)


verb (used with object)
  1. to wear (cloth, rope, etc.) to loose, raveled threads or fibers at the edge or end; cause to ravel out: Our old washing machine frayed all of our towels.
  2. to wear by rubbing (sometimes followed by through).
  3. to cause strain on (something); upset; discompose: All that arguing is fraying my nerves.
  4. to rub.
verb (used without object)
  1. to wear into loose, raveled threads or fibers, as cloth; ravel out: My sweater frayed at the elbows.
  2. to become strained or stressed: Jealousy could be a sign that your relationship is fraying.
  3. to rub against something: tall grass fraying against my knees.
  1. a raveled or worn part, as in cloth: frays at the toes of well-worn sneakers.

Origin of fray

1375–1425; late Middle English fraien < Old French frayer, freiier to rub < Latin fricāre. See friction
Related formsfrayed, adjective

Word story

This is the story of the second fray, a word that means to cause deterioriation or wear on something, usually material, by rubbing it. Metaphorically, this can apply to less tangible things, such as our nerves or our tempers.
This fray is closely related to the word friction, as both have as a common ancestor the Latin fricāre, meaning “to rub.” It makes sense—given enough friction, things will begin to fray. But language isn’t always so neat. One early sense of fray that existed in the 1400s, but which has since fallen out of use, meant “to bruise” (as in, with our strokes we shall fray him ). In a translation of Ovid’s Metamorphoses dating from the 1500s, this very same sense in a different context is used to mean “deflower” (deprive of virginity). Can we connect the dots from rub to bruise to deflower? Therein lies the rub.
Related Quotations
  • "[O]nce more he set to work on the laborious task of fraying through his ropes."
    -John Russell Fearn and Philip Harbottle Liquid Death and Other Stories (2002)
  • "The heat and hunger frayed men's tempers."
    -Colin Falconer When We Were Gods: A Novel of Cleopatra (2000)
  • "Tempers fray and arguments flare as motorists exchange expletives over the last parking space."
    -Andrew Holmes and Dan Wilson Pains in Public: 50 People Most Likely to Drive You Completely Nuts! (2004) Unabridged Based on the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2018

Related Words for fraying

unravel, erode, frazzle, chafe, rub, rip, tear, wear, ravel, fret, tatter

Examples from the Web for fraying

Contemporary Examples of fraying

Historical Examples of fraying

  • To protect the ends from fraying a scout should know how to "whip" them.

    Boy Scouts Handbook

    Boy Scouts of America

  • It is a stitch to prevent material from fraying, and is taken on the edge of material.

  • To protect the ends from fraying, a scout should know how to whip them.

  • I noticed then that he was fraying and twisting a newspaper.

    Cue for Quiet

    Thomas L. Sherred

  • And for the most part, because of the fraying nature of his present ills, not finding it.

    The Financier

    Theodore Dreiser

British Dictionary definitions for fraying


  1. a noisy quarrel
  2. a fight or brawl
  3. an archaic word for fright
verb archaic
  1. (tr) to frighten

Word Origin for fray

C14: short for affray


  1. to wear or cause to wear away into tatters or loose threads, esp at an edge or end
  2. to make or become strained or irritated
  3. to rub or chafe (another object) or (of two objects) to rub against one another
  1. a frayed place, as in cloth

Word Origin for fray

C14: from French frayer to rub, from Latin fricāre; see friction, friable
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Word Origin and History for fraying



mid-14c., "feeling of alarm," shortening of affray (q.v.; see also afraid). Meaning "a brawl, a fight" is from early 15c. (but late 14c. in Anglo-Latin). Fraymaker "fighter, brawler" is an excellent word from a 1530s statute.



"wear out by rubbing," c.1400, from Middle French frayer "to rub against," from Old French froiier "rub, scrape," from Latin fricare "to rub, rub down" (see friction). Related: Frayed; fraying.

Online Etymology Dictionary, © 2010 Douglas Harper

Idioms and Phrases with fraying


see enter the lists (fray).

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