What does SMILF mean?
SMILF, a take on MILF, stands for Single Mother I’d Like to Fuck. It also serves as the name of a TV comedy starring Frankie Shaw and Rosie O’Donnell.
Where does SMILF come from?
SMILF is based on MILF, or mother I’d like to fuck, and it refers to an attractive, middle-aged woman, typically a mother, and regarded as sexually desirable by younger men. MILF traces back to the early 1990s but was popularized by the 1999 comedy film American Pie.
MILF has inspired many spin-offs, including DILF and FILF (dads and fathers), GILF (grandparents), and SMILF. SMILF can be found online as early as 2003, as evidenced by an Urban Dictionary entry. What the S stands for can vary–popular alternatives include stepmother and soccer mom–although single has prevailed as the most popular interpretation.
SMILF picked up steam after the November 2017 premiere of the Showtime comedy SMILF, based on a 2015 short film of the same name. Created by and starring Frankie Shaw, the show follows Shaw’s character, Bridgette, as she balances life as a new single mom in South Boston (a.k.a. Southie, another S stand-ins). The character of Bridgette’s mother, Tutu, is played by actor and comedian Rosie O’Donnell.
Examples of SMILF
Who uses SMILF?
SMILF is most commonly used to mean single mother I’d like to fuck.
— Coralie Rose (@tropical_rose) September 22, 2012
When men use SMILF, it is often considered vulgar and sexually objectifying.
I'm going to fuck a smilf.💯🙌
— Braxton (@BraxtonKeele) March 1, 2015
— Logan Leiding (@LoganLeiding) July 14, 2012
When women use SMILF, however, it is often a saucy, flirty form of self-empowerment, especially due to historic judgment of single motherhood in society.
I guess I'm a SMILF this weekend…hehe pic.twitter.com/eS2spof2uk
— Gina (@GinaMeansReally) September 13, 2014
People can get very creative with their SMILF wordplay…
worked from 8AM to 9:30PM today! woo! co-worker & I have coined the term SMILF, where SM = Sales Manager… what is it about blue eyes?
— Kelly Laurin (@kelp715) August 12, 2008
heck yeah I'm a SMILF
— Sam Corbin (@ahoysamantha) October 29, 2017
And of course SMILF is widely used to refer to the TV show of the same name. Fans may use the hashtag #smilf when posting about the funny but endearing show.
Jesus SMILF just gets better & better with every episode.
— Emily Nussbaum (@emilynussbaum) January 30, 2018
— Kristin💗 (@Thats_So_Kay) January 28, 2019
This is not meant to be a formal definition of SMILF like most terms we define on Dictionary.com, but is rather an informal word summary that hopefully touches upon the key aspects of the meaning and usage of SMILF that will help our users expand their word mastery.