Examples of demisexual
Examples of demisexual
Where does demisexual come from?
The term demisexual was coined in 2006 on the forums of The Asexual Visibility & Education Network (AVEN) by user sonofzeal. In the thread, sonofzeal describes his experience of not experiencing sexual attraction without first forming an emotional connection.
Sonofzeal felt neither asexual nor completely non–asexual, so coining demisexual helped him more accurately describe needing an emotional bond as a prerequisite to sexual attraction. Demisexuality exists on the asexual spectrum—a continuum of sexualities ranging from completely asexual to non-asexual with lots of in-between.
By 2008, the term started seeing widespread use.
Demisexual: sexual attraction is not formed unless a strong emotional bond is formed first.
Support people under the ace umbrella. Asexuality is valid!#QCenterBinghamton #Demisexual #LoveisLove pic.twitter.com/xPuXmlMo5b
— Q Center Binghamton (@qcenterbing) October 29, 2018
Who uses demisexual?
Demisexuality makes frequent appearances online. Most notably on AVEN, the Demisexuality Resource Center forums, Tumblr, /r/asexual, or other online asexual spaces. People use the term demisexual as a useful tool to describe their identity and how it might differ from other identities.
happy day 2 of #AsexualAwarenessWeek !!! did you know asexuality actually exists on a spectrum? it goes from sexual—>asexual. in the middle, you have demisexual & grey-asexual. below are some helpful descriptions of each!! pic.twitter.com/sshIJv2kVR
— aubrie (@tayloraubrie4) October 22, 2018
A demisexual person might also use additional labels in conjunction with demisexual to further describe their identity, since this one label might not tell the whole story. For example, some people might use a label like panromantic (romantically attracted to people regardless of their gender), and so the entire identity might be called something like panromantic demisexual. This naming scheme is incredibly common.
“Just a Demisexual panromantic girl trying to find someone to love, or at least someone to be my friend.”
— CMU Confessions (@cmuconfessions3) November 6, 2018
So yes, I am a Biromatic Demisexual and proud! pic.twitter.com/olaB0lUeMy
— ✨🖤~Crimson AD~🔪✨ (@LilPup_Crimson) November 15, 2018
For other people, that might mean identifying as something like demisexual and heterosexual, since the label heterosexual describes romantic and sexual inclinations. It is up to the individual to describe which labeling scheme works for them. It may also depend on how much a demisexual person identifies with the wider asexual community.
Bisexual, pansexual, demisexual, asexual, fluid, non binary & trans individuals are all part of the LGBTQ+ community and should never be excluded.
— Luke Waltham (@lukewaltham) August 21, 2018
Some people might wonder: don’t all people need an emotional connection to be sexually attracted to someone? This is a common misconception. People who aren’t demisexual or asexual in some way can be and are attracted to people they don’t know, like strangers or celebrities. They might just choose not to act on it. Demisexuals cannot feel attracted to people they don’t know well.
asexual: lack of sexual attraction, nothing to do with libido/sexual activity
demisexual: sexual attraction develops only after emotional bond forms, still nothing to do with libido/sexual activity
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— whitetail queer (@dumpstercryptid) September 18, 2018
Demisexuality has been gaining more recognition as the years go on. There are sites, blogs, and articles dedicated to discussing this sexuality. And since, the dating site OkCupid has officially recognized demisexuality and has allowed its users to select it as a sexual orientation on their profile.
you are valid.
— simone kristine 🏳️🌈 (@simonefloral) August 3, 2018
Hello #LGBTCritters bandwagon! Demisexual & demiromantic, at times confused, at times completely asexual but when not also a lesbian critter here, hi! I also art. Would take a hug over a kiss any day, please pet my emotions instead of my body, thank you!
I need newer selfies. 😂 pic.twitter.com/zhT7KMF2Y2
— Sini Tuulia 🌈🌦♀️ (@SpectacularDoom) August 14, 2018