Netflix and chill & Spotify and side hug
One of the perils of 21st-century romance is that no one seems to go on dates anymore. Instead, we find ourselves in a lull of hangouts and grabbing coffees.
A staple of the dates-that-aren't-quite-dates is Netflix and chill. While it originally meant to literally hang out and watch the video-streaming service Netflix, in 2014 the meaning of Netflix and chill evolved to include romantically chilling with another person.
Not coincidentally, Netflix and chill also gained reputation as a bait-and-switch. People who understood the literal sense and not the slang did not realize they were being sexually propositioned until later. This led to memes in which people captioned photos or GIFs of surprised reactions with things like: I thought he meant Netflix and chill, When you find out what Netflix and chill means, and When he says Netflix and chill and you come over and he ain’t even got a TV. By 2015, it was commonly understood that Netflix and chill often meant more than just relaxing and watching a movie or show—although, perhaps ironically, by the late 2010s, Netflix and chill somewhat evolved back to its original sense, used of couples who just want to watch Netflix and chill out instead of, you know, doing other stuff.
If Netflix and chill is too intimate, you might opt for Spotify and side hug instead. Suggesting Spotify and side hug is a way to turn down someone you don't want to hang out with or imply you just want to be friends. It's mostly used, though, as a joking riff on Netflix and chill.
Apparently the brainchild of an Urban Dictionary submitter in 2016, the alliterative expression is meant to be a humorous step-down from Netflix and chill, as listening to music with someone on the music-streaming service Spotify, connected only by an awkward side hug, is seen as far more noncommittal.