Examples of femboy
Examples of femboy
Where does femboy come from?
The word femboy emerges by at least the 1990s. It begins as a derogatory term for a man who didn’t adhere to traditional standards of masculinity. Fem is a slang shortening of feminine, often with a pejorative undertone, and boy refers to a young man, here used in a belittling manner. Together, femboy doubles down on the insults. Comparable insults include sissy or wimp.
Especially in internet culture, femboy emerged as a positive term in circles where femininity was prized, appealing to a range of individuals who might be attracted to a mix of feminine and masculine traits. Online in the 1990s, people began discussing sexual fantasies about femboys, even soliciting sex from young men online. The erotic femboy prompted a genre of internet pornography, with PornHub introducing femboy as a searchable category on its site in 2013. Search interest in the term has dramatically increased ever since.
Around the same time, femboy also came to be adopted as a self-descriptor for guys who tend toward presenting feminine for non-sexual purposes. These persons adopt femininity as a form of everyday gender expression, donning a conventionally feminine aesthetic by wearing makeup or feminine clothing, for example. Though effeminate guys are often stereotyped as gay, being a femboy isn’t necessarily tied to any sexual orientation.
Femboi emerged as a variant of femboy and potentially draws from the meaning of boi as it exists in the LGBTQ+ community. Here, boi usually refers to younger, so-called “softer” individuals in the LGBTQ+ community who adopt masculinity in some shape or form, such as young trans men or young “butch” lesbians.
Who uses femboy?
As noted, femboy is used a slang in speech and writing in a range of settings. It can insult men perceived as too effeminate. It can label a genre of pornography featuring slender, curvy, often cross-dressing men. It can also be a self-identifying form of gender expression in the LGBTQ community. Be mindful of context and audience when using or interpreting femboy.